The outreach process that developers and planners often undergo has always struck me as less a negotiation and more like a perverse game of Marco Polo. Planners and stakeholders chase each other blindly, never quite knowing where each other are and rarely knowing what to do if one actually catches up with the other. It goes something like this:
"Setbacks?" "10 feet!"
"FAR?" "2.5!"
"Height limit?" "40 feet!"
"Parking...?" Don't get me started.